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The Big School Change

The summer holidays are running away with me so fast and I can hardly believe that my big girl is moving onto her next school in September.
Rewind a few weeks and we stand in the little playground near the end of the Summer term while she tells me she is ready to move on, that everyone at school sees us as a bit of a quirky family anyway; and that while she has had a very happy time at primary school, it is time for her to make a new start and meet some likeminded people in a bigger pond. My heart is in my mouth, incredulous on the one hand that she is able to articulate these feelings and on the other wanting to just hold her tight and cry huge rolling tears that my little girl feels this way.
And so, we make the transition to Secondary school, excited shopping trips for uniform and bits of equipment – all of which we label conscientiously. The day itself approaches and there are three younger siblings in tow at the school gates, all anxious to wave off an uber confident young lady who only gives a backward glance and a big ‘I can do it’ smile at the very last minute making all of our hearts melt. We walk home, talking of how very proud we are of her and wondering what she will do on her first day. It is a long one – waiting for the text to let us know who she sat next to, who was kind to her, who chatted and whether she is having a good time
Over the coming weeks, our big girl amazes us. Coping with the enormity of the building, the myriad of teachers and the numerous classrooms on different floors and in different buildings, in a way we never imagined. She is organised, conscientious and throwing herself into everything going.
And yet a term in, we are absolutely blown away and we just do not see it coming. Friendships are not at all that they seemed to be. Our clever, hardworking and bubbly big girl cries herself to sleep and we are unable to console her. We feel absolutely helpless. It is neither unintentional nor spiteful, more so a case of everyone finding their feet and fellow students just not thinking things through, yet it leaves my biggest girl feeling completely alone and lost.
We spend hours for several weeks late into the night talking through strategies and what if’s. She tells us that two girls in her class have noticed she is feeling down and have offered to help, so we encourage her to open up to them and trust her instincts. She is not sure she is feeling strong enough. The weekend gives her time to think and reflect, spending time with Mamma and her siblings who all reiterate how much we love her, how wonderful she is and how proud we are of her for taking this big step.
Monday morning brings a brave young lady, who decides to talk at school and ask for help (although she tells us about it later). Once done, she is overwhelmed by their kindness, their support and their comradery.
Two terms further in and there is no looking back. It has been a long journey, yet our big girl tells us she is glad that it all happened and that she has learnt a lot about friendships and how they work. She is stronger, more resilient and we are so proud of her for staying true to what means so much to her – being kind, being helpful and treating others how you would like to be treated.
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Sarah McArdell

I am Sarah, a primary school teacher turned mostly stay at home mamma to four little ones (except for popping out to teach antenatal classes, which I have a passion for). We bumble along in beautiful chaos coupled with a good sprinkling of my desire for storage solutions and all things organised. You'll usually find me exploring and contemplating the things which make me tick: vegetarianism, homebirthing, babywearing, bedsharing, attachment parenting, growing our own veggies and loving owning chickens!

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